First dates are always tricky. The whole idea of meeting someone new, starting up conversations and keeping them up, giving and taking of compliments, trying to figure out if you like the other person or not, and the awkwardness that comes with all of it. Your body is ought to tremble with nervousness and adrenaline!
Well, to your rescue, we have a few first date tips that will help you sail through your first date!
Elite Daily spoke to the dating coach, Evan Marc Katz, and he says that the most important thing you need to do on a first date is LET GO OF YOUR AGENDA. Yes, it is important to make eye contact, smile, be interested and ask questions to get to know the other person but going on a date with an agenda in mind never works.
Here’s bringing you some wisdom from the dating guru –
- “If you go into the date with an agenda — I’m going to figure out what this guy’s deal is, I’m going to figure out what’s wrong with him, I’m not going to get hurt, I’m not going to waste my time like I did with the last guy — then they’re not going to have any fun and they’re not going to want to see you again.”
- “It’s really, really common, but don’t try to figure out if he’s your husband on your first date,” Katz says. “You’re not there to ask him pointed questions to try to figure out if he wants kids, how he votes, whether he’s financially stable, or whether he’s looking for a serious relationship or not.” Of course, you’ll want to know these things if you get into a relationship later on with your date, but the first date isn’t about that stuff. Katz explains, “It’s like trying to read the last page of the book before you turn the first page.”
- Katz believes that most people on a first date want simple things — to be liked, appreciated, and to feel good. “Initially, someone will want to go on a date with you based on how they feel in your presence.”
- There are simple ways to make someone feel appreciated and good about themselves. Katz says, “Look them in the eye, touch them on the hand, ask them questions. Metaphorically, if you go into a date with your arms crossed like, ‘Show me what you got,’ it will make the other person defensive.”
- “The best thing you could do on a first date is not to spend half a second worrying if you’re going to get a second date,” he says. “Assume the answer is yes. Assume that the person sitting across from you likes you, is attracted to you, and wants to date you.” Assuming these things will help you relax, give you confidence, and let you be yourself.
- After the date, Katz suggests asking yourself three questions, “Did you have enough fun, were you comfortable enough, and were you attracted enough to go on a second date? You don’t have to figure out the whole future.” This will help you understand if you feel a connection with your date and if you want to feel it again.
So, the next time you’re on a date, try to keep these tips in mind and who knows, it may lead on to something so much more than just a first date!